Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Eulogy to my mother, Erika Langmuir, 1931-2015

December 8, 2015: My mother, Dr Erika Hedwig Blumenfeld Langmuir McKeown OBE, and yes, that's a bit of a mouthful, passed away this morning, aged 84.

Erika Hedwig Blumenfeld was born in Warsaw May 15, 1931, her mother a bourgeois Polish Jew with a university degree and a flair for languages, and her (also Jewish) father among many other things a soldier in the Czech army. Erika and her parents escaped Poland scant weeks ahead of the Nazi invasion in 1939, taking what they could, but leaving behind much, most sadly her beloved dog "Stobi", and made their way by train to Bucharest. (Some of her relatives also escaped, ending up in such diverse places as Rhodesia/now Zimbabwe, Israel, and Canada, but some did not and perished in the Holocaust.) From Romania, Erika's family boarded ship on the Black Sea for Alexandria, where they stayed for a while and Erika remembered watching the "dog-fights" overhead, then on to the south of France, where they lived for around two years and Erika went by her middle name, in French pronounced, if not spelled, "Edwige". Then, with the all-important affidavit in hand, the three set sail from the choppy Gulf of Lyon to Casablanca, where they boarded the Portuguese-flag ship Serpa Pinto, which had been running the blockade and risking torpedoes ferrying mainly Jewish refugees to the USA and other places. (This ship is perhaps best known, at least among Jews, for bringing Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson (1902-1994), seventh leader of Chabad-Lubavitch, and his wife, Chaya Mushka, to America in 1941.) Erika and her family reached New York in June 1942, where at Ellis Island Erika saw saw the "No Smoking" sign, and with her limited but refined English wondered why tuxes / dinner jackets ("smoking jackets") were prohibited.

Erika grew up in New York City, where she went to high school and worked. She was awarded  a scholarship to Sarah Lawrence, where she earned her Bachelor's degree. She met my father, Gavin Ince Langmuir, a Canadian veteran of WWII and doctoral student at Harvard, at a "mixer" party. When Gavin was offered a professorship at Stanford University, he and Erika married before they moved to California, where they adopted me at birth in 1961. While caring for me and being a faculty wife, Erika earned her Master's degree in Art History at Stanford. In 1968, Erika was offered a Kress fellowship to study for her doctorate under the eminent Professor Sir Ernst Gombrich at the Warburg Institute in London. She accepted this prestigious offer and went with me to London, believing Gavin would join us after a year. Things did not go as originally planned - Gavin and Erika had grown apart. Divorce proceedings were started and Erika and I remained alone in London, where I went to primary (elementary) school and was taught by the eccentric, gifted and (sadly for little me) anti-American poet Ivor Cutler, as well as many more congenial teachers.

While living as a single mom, in 1969 Erika met Charles McKeown, a young actor, they became involved, and we all moved in together. Erika completed her doctorate, and was hired in 1971 as a professor of art history by the University of Sussex. We moved to Brighton a year later - we stayed an extra year in London, and Erika endured a long commute, so that I (then 10 years old) would not have to change schools again for just one year. About ten years later, after Erika was hired by the Open University to chair their Art History department, Erika and Charles moved back to London. Then in 1988, Erika was appointed head of education at the National Gallery in London under then Gallery director Neil MacGregor, where, among other accomplishments, she wrote the Companion Guide to the Gallery and was instrumental in the creation of the Micro-Gallery, an early implementation of information technology for studying the gallery's works.

In 1995 Erika retired from the Gallery, and the same year was awarded the Order of the British Empire for "services to art". Queen Elizabeth II put the medal on Erika with her own hands, and I got to see it happen. I think I was way more impressed by this than was Erika. Erika continued to work as a consultant for the Gallery, and also reviewed exhibitions and wrote articles and an art history book called "Imagining Childhood" (Yale University Press, 2006). Meanwhile Charles continued his interesting career as an actor and screenwriter. You may have seen some of his work, including Terry Gilliam's "The Adventures of Baron Munchausen", in which Charles has credits as both actor and screenwriter.

In 2007, Erika and Charles moved full-time to Umbria, a region of Italy that they loved and had visited with increasing frequency and ever lengthening duration for more than 20 years, since buying a vacation apartment in a medieval hill town. Then in spring 2009, Erika was diagnosed with stomach cancer, which necessitated having 2/3 of her stomach removed. She survived that cancer, then breast cancer, and later Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. Then, in September of 2015, after complaining of back pain, Erika was diagnosed with a (probably metastatic) spinal cancer. After an illness that was both mercifully short and way too long for her liking, Erika passed away in the hospice in Terni on the morning of December 8, 2015.

This essay may imply, but hasn't said outright, that Erika was a great teacher - she was, by many accounts, including my own. I didn't yet mention that Erika was a wonderful chef, a patron of artists and craftspeople, and a cat-lover, but all those things she was too. And so much more.

This is a too-short summary of the days on this earth of a person who changed the lives of many, including mine. May her memory be for a blessing.

Erika in 1995, after receiving the OBE, with me, Charles and a family friend, Barbara

Erika and Charles in Italy in 2010

Erika and me in about 1963. I look about 2, right?

Erika and me in a photo-booth in the mid-1960s. When exactly is anyone's guess

Friday, January 30, 2015

Title activities report - September 2014

September was a busy month. My step-aside looming, I was determined to get as much out of my last month in the title as possible. I began to realize I would miss my sash. I even slept in it for a few nights....

But I am getting ahead of myself.

  • September 7. I had a photo shoot with Morgan from nakedeyephotography.com. I wanted more pictures of myself in the aforementioned sash, and Morgan took some great ones. Here's one of my favorites.
  • September 12-14. I went with my wife Marilyn to Seattle, for the 25th anniversary of some good friends of ours. The party was fantastic, and we got to celebrate with our friends, meet new people, and reconnect with folks we hadn't seen for ages. We got dressed up and took selfies. And in between the chatting and eating and drinking, we made an appearance at the Cuff for a puppy event. Look at this adorable dog!

  •  September 16. I went to Joe's Barbershop to get my hair cut, as I do every six weeks or so. Joe's just celebrated its tenth anniversary. My barber, and the proprietor, Joe Gallagher, is a really great guy, and also happens to be International Mr. Leather 1996. He has given me some useful advice, as well as making me look good. Thanks, Joe!
  • September 18. Folsom Street Fair weekend is upon us! It may be only Thursday but that never stopped anyone from throwing a fabulous event. We got to see a lot of SD Holman's photos from the book Butch: Not Like the Other Girls, at a book launch party. Thanks to the Austin Law Group for hosting these beautiful pictures - and the party.
  • September 19. I attended and demoed at The Exiles' meet and greet. In the past we had held our meet and greets for people other than men (our usual demographic), or all women and transpeople, a bit more inclusive. This time we threw caution to the winds and included everyone. Hurrah! Some great guys showed up. The demos were off the hook. Mine was a blast, for sure. Sorry for lack of pictures, but this is a work safe blog. Then I went along to the Queer Leather Happy Hour's 5-year anniversary event at the Armory club. Packed! Amazing crowd of great people. I couldn't stay long because I had a long day on Saturday ...
  • September 20. Joined the Golden Gate Guards for their annual Leather Cruise on the bay. Hung out with my wife, my contest producers, and lots of hot leathermen. Then we went to a great party at Alchemy. I didn't have particular plans when I arrived, and ended up involved in some impromptu hijinks. Then I went home to bed because I had a long day on Sunday ...
  • September 21. The day of the big fair! We started out going to Donna Sachet's famous annual brunch. It was fabulous. Many titleholders and scene celebrities from near and far were in attendance.Here's my favorite iphone picture from the event.
    You can see a lot more pictures from this event at Richtrove.com. Rich Stadtmiller takes tons of great pictures of our community, and his pictures from many, many community events can be found on his site.He is doing a great service to the community. Thanks Rich! 
  • Still not even noon yet... After the brunch, we went to the fair. Along with Scott BigRed Farrell, Mr. San Francisco Leather 2014, I got to announce all the titleholders on the main stage. It was awesome fun, and I found out that someone videoed the whole thing and put it on YouTube! Which means you can watch it here if you like.
  • Then it was the whole afternoon at the fair. We had a Mama's Family photo by Rich Stadtmiller,
    and I stopped in to Mark Chester's studio for a quick snap in the sash.
    pic: Mark Chester
    That evening I went to the Crave! event at the SF Citadel. And some very interesting things transpired. But that, dear reader, is a whole other tale best saved for another time.
  • September 22. I completed the work on my new tattoo. Here is a front view of it. I love it! Suzanne at Modern Electric Studio is a genius.
My title year was almost complete. I did some fun stuff in those last few days. I'll post about it soon. Thanks for reading!

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Title activities report - August 2014

I can't believe it's already a new year. I got so very behind on my blog! I'm afraid I was too busy having an absolutely amazing time to tell you about it. I apologize for the delay. Without further ado, here's another episode of my adventures.

  • August 2. With my wife Marilyn, I attended the Santa Clara County Leather Association formal leather/uniform dinner. SCCLA is a social and educational leather club serving the San Jose and South Bay area. This was a well-attended and fun evening, with good food, entertainment and a silent auction. It was lovely to see many of the Golden Gate Guards in attendance in their beautiful uniforms. We got to feel virtuous while enjoying ourselves too, because the event was a fundraiser to benefit the St Jude Children's Research Hospital
  • August 3. First of three tattoo sessions with Suzanne Shifflett at Modern Electric Studio. Suzanne has done some amazing work on me. This was just the first session. It looks great here, but wait until you see the shading and color! Keep reading and I will show you more.
  • August 8-9. I attended the Oregon State Leather contest, produced in Portland, OR by Blackout Leather Productions. I had already planned to go, to attend the step-downs of Mr Oregon State Leather 2013 Bill, Ms Oregon State Leather 2013 Stormy, and Oregon State Bootblack 2013 (also International Ms Bootblack) Dara, but then I was fortunate to be selected to serve as one of the judges for the 2014 contest. I had a great weekend. It was a lot of fun judging alongside Mr. LA Leather 2014 Eric Paul Leue, our head judge American Leatherman 2013 Aaron Duke, and the three outgoing titleholders.
    There were no contestants for the Bootblack contest this year, but we had excellent contestants for Mr. and Ms. Oregon State Leather. I am sure the 2014 titleholders, Mr. Sir Steven and Shawna, will do a great job representing Oregon State, Blackout Leather Productions, and their local community.
    I was graciously hosted by my new friend Norah, who was my glamorous date for the contest, 
    afterward took me to a really fun party, about which I shall say no more (it's a bit like Vegas: what happens there ... stays there), and later taught me a useful new skill. After which, we went geocaching!
  • August 22. I had my second tattoo session with Suzanne. We got most of the shading done.
  • August 23. Attended and co-hosted the joint Ms SF Leather / Exiles beer bust at the SF Eagle,which was an amazing success, in great part thanks to a big turnout from the men's leather community,
    and then went on to the Mr. and Ms. Alameda County Leather cont
    est. The Alameda County Leather Corps (ACLC) is a a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization serving the East Bay community. Their stated primary mission is to provide education, fund-raising and fellowship. I have seen the new titleholders, Mr. Alameda County Leather Al Parso and Ms. Alameda County Leather Luna Bear, all over the Bay Area, so I know they are doing a good job of visibly representing their club and community.
  • Labor Day weekend. The month ended with a bang! With my wife Marilyn, I attended Camp Queer, a long weekend summer-camp-style kinky mountain playground in the hills above Guerneville on the Russian River. Perfect weather, full board accommodation, clothing optional pool, indoor and outdoor play space, and a great variety of lovely people attending. It was so fun! This was not a "sash function" for me by any means, but I did want to give the organizers a shout out here. It was so fun!
August was indeed a busy and fun month. My blog entry for September will include some pictures from the fantastic time I had the whole weekend of Folsom Street Fair. I'll get to that soon... I promise.